I learn 12 ways to be tender

Jasminedays
2 min readOct 8, 2022

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Photograph: Sabiha Çimen

I learn 12 ways to be tender

I learn to wrap my voice in 100% Egyptian cotton, in cruelty-free silk

I learn one way to feather-kiss your eyelids

and two ways to listen:

with my eyes

and then with my hands.

I tiptoe past a rain worm

and watch it curl into infinity

I learn that watching life is tender,

that being careful is tender too.

Some wounds are tender

and I learn not to prod them

not even after a fight when

I’d like to push my finger into

the lip of these wounds

and make them talk to me

I resist and learn that resistance is tender.

I learn ways to care less, care full,

ways to caress, care as

much as possible.

I learn that tenderness is a recipe:

take one thick rack of the year 2014,

pull out its bones,

add a teaspoon of fermented love letters

toss in a handkerchief with embroidered edges

sprinkle one cold-pressed compliment

season it with the sting of an old insult

pressure cook for four whistles.

I learn 12 ways to be tender

one way with myself

I leave camellias in favourite books

so they can be found by me in the future

crushed under the weight of the past

but still beautiful, still whole.

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